Motivation - why defend yourself

To defend yourself is a choice. This choice could be based on a whish to be able to handle yourself in a certain situation at work or just a vague feeling of wanting to be secure.

This is a concious choice and a choice that is done before a physical confrontation has started. But there are many people who havn't done this choice, and still were able to defend themselves. Under the confrontation they" decided" that they were going to defend themselves and did. This wasn't nescesary a concious thought, but a motivation to get through it, was there.

And the motivation is the key for succes, much larger and deeper than just wanting to defend yourself. Some poeple know what is most important for them , and this becon of light brings them through life, while others have to take a minute to find this becon.

Take a piece of paper, or open your note pad (on your computer) and write down the 5 most important things in your life. If it is oinly 2 or 4, that's fine. Then give them numbers from 1 to 5 ( or 3 if there was only three), were 1 is most important. If this doesn't ring well for you, give it a new shott after a couple of days, and maybe you have to do it again. But along the line you should be seeing a patern that will indicate were your number 1 is.

Number 1 is the most important for you, and for some it will be your children og your work. Remember to be specific; if you've choosen your children, choose the one that is most important for you, if its your job, choose why, and what about your job that is most important.

By making your choice the single most inportant becone, there will be no doubt, and when you need the motivation this becon will stand clear and strong!